rightio, heres the story and i just need somewhere to go on and on about it all as i am so happy right now!!! feel free to ignore or reply!!!
i've got a half sister whom was adopted out at birth at one month old. i am 23 and she is now 18 and out there somewhere in that wild world. i met my birthmother for the fist time on my birthday last year (september), purely by concidence that i had the free time then to arrive on her doorstep un-announced on that day after i had finally tracked her down after ages of searching.
i find to my suprise she now has ANOTHER 3 children, to her ex husband, so i go from being an only child to one of 5!! woooh! scary! however the birthmother turns out to be a bitch and liar and so on, and still after 13 months or so the 3 kids dont know anything about me and i'm not permitted to meet them and she has no interest in my life. as for my now 18 year old sister, as the maternal parents of the child are the only ones able to legally track down an adopted child, and the birth father was never known and he never knew that he had a bun in the oven as my mother broke up with him upon finding out, i had no chance of ever meeting my adopted sister..
so i'd talked to the powers that be in the adoption services, and they told me to write in and beg and plead my case and i may have a smidgeon of a chance of them bending the rules for me. anway at the same time i also post an ad up on an adoption register website seeking my sister and i needed more info, so i talked to the ex husband of my birth mothers, the father of her 3 children, my half-siblings.
turns out (now hes a cool guy and trying his hardest to help me meet them) he had met my birth mother when she was pregnant way back when, and ended up being convinced to go on the birth certificate by her! so even though he is not the biological father, he is lawfully her father!! and he also signed the adoption papers!!!
this means i now have my adopted sisters 'father' on my side and willing to track her down!!! woooohooooooooo!! and not only that but hopefully i should be meeting his children sometime next week!!! wooohooo!!! am so stoked and shitting myself also!! i am excited as!!!!
great news , hope it all works out for you, apparently i have an older half brother in melbourne i didnt find out about till i was 18, havent met him and i dont know if he knows about my sister and myself so i kinda have an idea about how you feel.
good luck 馃檪
danielle
pod 路
thats f@#king great news mate,hope it all turns out good for you:thumb
maybe a big:party:party:party:party
with plenty of:beer:beer:beer:beer
twoguns 路
wow. well you gotta keep us posted on how tis goes now... feel like we all family,now. best wishes for it all.
jenz58 路
~air fooled~ WOW!!!! How exciting for you...it's so important to make these connections in life for better or for worse....as in the birthmothers case....you can now move on to better things
The ex of your birthmother sounds cool......so glad you've made contact with him...it a very important moment for you....Hope all goes so well now for you
...how do your adoptive parents cope with it all.... well they'd know that you'd want to look...but all the same scary for them a little ... I'm sure you know what I mean and worked through it with them but it something you do need to do to fit the gigsaw together
Life is never straight forward for anyone...but especially for adopted kids there are big gaps to be filled
God I can imagine that you are half shitting yourself but so excited at the same time...FARK!!! All the best for the meeting :sandrine:party:beer
Midlife crisis 路
Good Luck and hope you enjoy meeting your "new" family.
ByronBug 路
:sandrine
I will cross my fingers & hope for a happy outcome to all this for you.
My thoughts are with you....
Judy馃槈
karmen 路
onya
you is been airfooled aLL along buddy LoL
barlsy - dya reckon the avatar is apropriate on this topic ??
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what ya say laurie??
bernie alias
penguin 路
Good luck
remember not to get too (hah, easier said than done) excited, just in case. But wish you well on this one. wow!!
squizy 路
That's great news!! Just think of all the extra Christmas presents you can buy now!!!
Squiz....
~air fooled~ 路
wooohoho! still peaking today! still happy as a pig in shit! hahahahahaha
i had a minor accident in the wet last night in the work ute but not even that could temper my spirits at the mo! yippee!!hahahahahaha
thankyou everyone for the kind words and support, this moment is a big step in the right direction that i've being trying to go since i found out everything 7 years ago or so.
when i was 16 my aunty accidentally told me "you know how your mum isnt your real mum?!" assuming i already knew! hahaha... it was then i was told that my birth mum run off when i was 1 when after my father had been run over, and she later on gave birth to my eldest sister whom she promptly adopted out.
so i learnt that my mum as i knew her was essentially my step mum by law, my birth mother had run off and gave birth to my half sister whom was adopted out. then when i found my birth mum i gained 3 more siblings!! haha!! woohoo!!
actually as a funny little side note, a couple of weeks before fathers day last year i thought i may of found a half sister OLDER then me due to my dad shagging his brothers missus (just what did you people get up to in the late 70's early 80's!!!) and her poppin out a kid that looked like my dad but not his brother! anyway, i found this out about this time and tracked her down in sydney. we agreed to get a paternity test happening, so $800 later i recieved the swabs i had to get my dad to take so it became HAPPY FATHERS DAY!! and gave em to him on that day hahahaha!! my parents didnt know that i had been tracking my lost siblings down and i was on bad terms with my father at that stage and hadnt spoken for 6 months or there abouts so it was a big suprise for them!!! plus irony is one of my favourite types of humour so i found it hilarious to be giving him a paternity test for fathers day!! anyway, it turns out that she wasnt my sister after all that!! hahaha!! how funny life is!! :P:P:P:P:duh:duh:duh
Starbug 路
wow! airfooled, this is such big news!
thanks for sharing such an amazing story, i hope it all works out for you 馃檪
what an amazing way to find your roots and your little place in the world 馃榾
keep us posted!
~air fooled~ 路
this is my brother and sister that i met for the first time on saturday night! how awesome! they were only told about me an hours before these pics were taken! i am so stoked! i am still yet to meet their older sister who is 15 and i should soon be recieving the info on my 19 year old sister who was adopted out at birth!! yay!!!
[Edited on 23/3/2005 by ~air fooled~]
Fossil 路
great news and hope it keeping well for you :beer:party
bugeyedbabe 路
airfooled...
it was such a big thing, meeting ur family...I am so stoked for u that it is working out well...
cheers
Donna
~air fooled~ 路
:beer:beer:beer:beer:beer:beer
its been a great week i can tell you that! nothing can sour my mood and im off to sydney for easter! woohoo! thanks guys!
Fossil 路
Enjoy I'll haev a few :beer:beer:beer for you
helbus 路
Far out that is just so amazing. It would be so much to take in. I am happy for you and wish you all the best.
I am lucky that as an extended family there were no adoptions out and strangley we all got along over the years and had family reunions etc.
I am one of 12 with 1 full brother, 3 half brothers, 2 adopted in brothers, 3 half sisters, 1 step sister and 1 adopted in sister. In total there are 7 parents involved and we all have the same surname except 1.
It is really complicated but now with 23 nieces and nephews as well I don't miss the fact I have only 2 cousins.
Our family tree looks like a bowl of spaghetti.
wacked1 路
i'm really happy and excited for you mate. good luck with sis.
jenz58 路
arifooled excellent...nice pic of the three of you 馃槑
Peter....what a family!! ...it explains why you are so laid back and cool
It can still be a family tree...just a contorted willow or something :thumb
speedster356 路
After not having a very good last few days this post has just put the biggest smile on my face........thanks and good luck.:thumb
vanderaj 路
It's so good to see a happy ending! 馃檪
Andrew
jenz58 路
It is a feel good thing isn't it...SO nice 馃檪
Oasis 路
Great to hear. THIS is important.
carisma 路
best news for you that it turned out really good,,hope you find your sister,,my 2 sons meet there 2 stepbrothers and what a different couple of kids, mine 2 boys are into footy and sports and the 2 stepbrothers are into rolling smokes and drinking,,they even got my son drunk when he was 13yrs,,i spat, but my ex thinks it was funny,,you know what is funny my son is 20yrs and 14yrs and then there is the stepbrothers that are 16rs and 17yrs,,work that one out,,ahhhh but i own my own house and hes still renting and not working,,like always,,,cant keep that thing in his pants,,my kids dont like there father or stepbrothers,i wonder how many more kids he has floating around,,my kids have made a life for themselves one plays pro footy in melb and a carptner by trade and the young one will do good when he leaves school...not like the stepbros on the dole and bums,,,not all families work out but i really hope you can have a special bond with yours,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,colleen
penguin 路
Colleen,
proof that it is not all just genetics/predetermined, but the way we are brought up that helps and influences us to be what we are.
Airfooled 馃檪
a very BIG Congrats mate, have a great easter now that you are part of a bigger family 馃榾 The photo looks great (managed to stop smiling yet??)
zac_smits 路
i have a sister.
i think she's adopted...well, she will be when one of you claims her.
anyone? betting starts at $1....
good to see you finally met them mated 馃榾
Zac
aggri1 路
That's really great dude! Wish you all the best.馃檪
~air fooled~ 路
thanks everyone for the best wishes and i am happy ive put a smile on others faces... i tell you a lot of times in my life i have been beaten down but i always managed to continue on and stand back up.... its been close to curtain call a couple of times but my life is finally evolving to a point where im starting to feel complete with myself and truly happy...
it took me 18 months to finally be allowed to meet these children, i had a fire,desperation and loneliness that burned in me for so long and they were all stoked by the fact that they only lived 30 minutes down the road and i had no legal right to see them. i had thought many times about just walking up to them and telling them who i was, but it was time for me to be selfless and let the process take its course. they were young and in the middle of a dirty custody battle so i had to just be vigilant and have faith id meet them one day. WHICH I DID!! WOOHOOO! HAHAAHA!!! still on cloud 9!
i am sooo gratefull for their father for this opportunity, though he has done it for his own reasons.... also their mother, my birth mother whom i dislike immensely is 6 months pregnant with her sixth kid, so i have another sibling on the way but the shame of the matter is that i probably wont have any access for many years to come...
and how cute is my little sister! her first words to me!? "so is your mum my mum!" how cute is that!!!